Alexandra Katehakis and Tom Bliss say if fairy tales really dictated our lives…

“Classic fairy tales do not deny the existence of heartache and sorrow, but they do deny universal defeat.”

~ Greenhaven

In fairy tales, love is an ideal, perfect relationship that was destined to be. It’s easy to forget the dark conflicts and dangers that fairy tales also present. If fairy tales really dictated our lives, true love would require early abandonment, voluntary isolation, dubious acquaintances, hazardous tests, fatal mistakes, terrifying evil and horrendous sacrifice. Yet most lovers focus only on the tales’ perfect happy endings as a template for achieving their hearts’ desire.

How much do fairy tales–in all their fantasy facets–inform our lives? Certainly in a deeply psychological manner, fairy tales express universal inner experiences in symbolic language. One message they share is that, regardless of circumstance and appearances, each of us plays out a profoundly meaningful story whose every moment is vital and whose every act has consequences. But this insight doesn’t mean we should run to slay the neighborhood dragon or devote our lives to a lover held hostage by another. One of the most dangerous pitfalls of fairy-tale romance is losing our good sense through the misinterpretation of reality… as fairy tales themselves so often tell us!

– Alexandra Katehakis and Tom Bliss, Daily Meditations, 23 October 2014, Center for Healthy Sex

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Aaron Neville sings Van Morrison: take away my trouble, take away my grief…

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Viktor Frankl says the more one forgets himself…

“Being human always points, and is directed, to something or someone, other than oneself — be it a meaning to fulfill or another human being to encounter. The more one forgets himself — by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love — the more human he is.”

– Viktor Frankl

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Kathleen Vohs says people leading meaningful lives…

“Happy people get a lot of joy from receiving benefits from others while people leading meaningful lives get a lot of joy from giving to others…

– Kathleen Vohs, quoted in “There’s More to Life Than Being Happy”, Atlantic Magazine, Jan 9,2013

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Charlotte Eriksson says you love and lose and bleed best you can…

“You read and write and sing and experience, thinking that one day these things will build the character you admire to live as. You love and lose and bleed best you can, to the extreme, hoping that one day the world will read you like the poem you want to be.”

– Charlotte Eriksson

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Sigmund Freud says out of your vulnerabilities…

“Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength.”

– Sigmund Freud

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Kristie Le Vangie says arousal begins with the mind…

“Arousal begins within the mind, then seeps out where fantasy propels physicality.”

– Kristie Le Vangie

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