“You and I both know that we have shadow sides. We have edges, my darling, and resistances to love. If we’re unevolved about this, then we will hurt each other, we will only cause pain. These aspects of ourselves could ruin this relationship. Let’s consider this, before we embark.
In fact, we were brought together for healing purposes. There will be something in your personality which is bound to trigger the unhealed parts of me, and I will trigger yours.
But we can see this relationship differently Through the grace of God, it can become a healing environment rather than an emotional torture chamber. Then I think I can work on those parts of myself, and you can work on those parts of you. We can even grow beyond these things. I just need you to know that I’m trying. Please share with me, but try not to attack or judge me for these wounds I carry. And I will try my best to do the same for you. Then holiness will be served here, and the relationship can deepen.
Forgive me, if you can, and I vow to try to forgive you.”
– Marianne Williamson, Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power of Intimate Relationships